Becoming a Surrogate Mother

Learn How To Become a Surrogate

Learn How To Become a Surrogate

Learn How To Become a Surrogate

What is a Surrogate Mother?

A surrogate mother is a woman who carries a baby for another person or a couple. The person who is trying to have a baby with the help of the surrogate mother is known as an intended parent. At ConceiveAbilities, we work with intended parents who undergo in vitro fertilization (IVF) so that the surrogate can carry a baby to whom she is not genetically or legally related. The surrogate mother is paid for her time and efforts by the intended parent(s). The embryo is created from the intended father’s sperm, or donor sperm, and the intended mother’s egg, or donor egg. When the baby is born, the intended parents are listed on the birth certificate as the legal parents and assume all responsibility for the child.

Surrogate Rachelle holding flowers outside a home

Choose ConceiveAbilities As Your Surrogacy Agency

ConceiveAbilities is a leading surrogacy agency in the United States. We are a pioneering company with twenty-four years of staying power in the field of surrogacy, working locally in every major city and many rural locales across the United States. Throughout our history, we have matched thousands of surrogates with intended parents, making dreams of a family for hopeful people become reality.

ConceiveAbilities elevates your surrogacy experience. From our first-class professionals to our proven methods, we have taken measures to provide you with the most successful and healthy experience possible. As you read about our process, you’ll see that ConceiveAbilities invests in building a large community of available surrogates because, simply, surrogates sit at the very heart of our program. Because of this investment, we are able to move with speed, more quickly than any other agency, to serve your interests in achieving a healthy and successful surrogacy journey. We are your people.

What is the Surrogate Mother Process?

The process to become a surrogate mother involves six basic steps.

  1. Research Surrogacy
  2. Find Out If You Qualify
  3. Match With Intended Parents
  4. Begin Pregnancy
  5. Carry and Deliver a Baby
  6. Conclude Your Surrogacy Journey

ConceiveAbilities will be your partner throughout each of these steps, allowing you to experience the joy of surrogacy while we manage the details to ensure your journey is successful and healthy. Our process is rooted in precision, support and compassion. We know how to look around the corner and anticipate the key decisions that are key to a great outcome, because we have years of experience with surrogates, families, physicians and experts across the country.

  • 1. Research Surrogacy

  • 2. Find Out If You Qualify

  • 3. Match With Intended Parents

  • 4. Begin Pregnancy

  • 5. Carry and Deliver a Baby

  • 6. Conclude Your Surrogacy Journey

  • 1. Research Surrogacy

  • 1. Research Surrogacy: Is This Your Calling?

    Women feel called to be surrogates for many unique reasons. Through our work with thousands of women, however, we do see some common insights about many surrogates:

    • Almost 90% find joy in giving to others, and demonstrate that through their actions. For instance, more than 50% regularly volunteer and nearly half are registered blood and organ donors.
    • The time must be right; over 80% examine the timing based on the needs of their family and turn to their inner circle for support about the decision.
    • Two-thirds have first-hand experience with a friend or family member’s struggle with infertility.
    • The financial incentive is meaningful and more than 60% report it will help to create a safety net by, for instance, paying down debt or saving for their family’s future.

    Would you like to learn more about why women find purpose in being a surrogate?

    Please join us, right now, at the Surrogacy Learning Center, a one-of-a-kind community where you can collaborate about surrogacy with both newcomers and experts.

    Can you be a surrogate during the COVID-19 pandemic?

    Yes. Surrogacy is an essential service. With the right precautions, more hopeful people than ever are continuing to build their families with the assistance of a surrogate. Listen to a podcast conversation between our CEO Nazca Fontes and Dr. Marie Werner, a respected reproductive endocrinologist, as they discuss surrogacy during the time of coronavirus.

  • 2. Find Out If You Qualify

  • 2. Find Out If You Qualify, in Three Parts

    • Take 5 to 10 minutes and complete your personalized surrogacy application, where we explain each basic requirement, like your age, your prior deliveries, and where you live, and apply them to you. We love getting to know women who are considering becoming a surrogate, and please know that all of your information is maintained with utmost privacy. Read more about the basic requirements.
    • Once your application is approved, you will schedule and complete an introductory call so we can get to know you better, including a more detailed discussion of your medical history. Together, we'll gather your records about your medical history, past pregnancies, and background. This screening is very detailed to make sure that a surrogacy journey can be healthy and successful for you.
    • We will prepare you to become a surrogate by providing written details of how much money you will earn as a surrogate and more detailed information about what to expect. We will gain a deeper understanding of your values and expectations for the family you would like to help as a surrogate, and how we can support your entire family during your pregnancy. Get an estimate of your surrogate pay with our personalized calculator.

  • 3. Match With Intended Parents

  • 3. Match With Intended Parents, a New Relationship

    • Once you are qualified as a surrogate, ConceiveAbilities uses our proprietary matching process, Matching Matters®, to connect you with the family you were meant to help. We match you with a family that shares your values and expectations for the type of relationship you want. Our surrogacy agency has a 97% success rate on a successful match on the first meeting.
    • The intended parents will deposit all the money needed for your surrogacy journey in escrow so you have the peace-of-mind of knowing that the full financial resources for your journey are safe and secure.
    • You will meet your dedicated ConceiveAbilities’ Match Manager, who will work with you and your intended parents to guide your journey as a surrogate.

  • 4. Begin Pregnancy

  • 4. Begin Pregnancy, a New Life with Modern Help

    • This is getting real, yes? First, we introduce you to the Surrogate Sisterhood, a private community of women that are actively engaged with us on a surrogacy journey. You will have routine opportunities to connect with this incredible network of supporters that totally “get it” and are available to answer any question you may have.
    • The IVF clinic that the Intended Parents have selected will conduct their own review of your qualifications as a surrogate. ConceiveAbilities’ experience and careful screening process helps to ensure that this is a satisfactory review.
    • You and your intended parents will create a legal contract, with our assistance, that confirms your services and pay. We’ll tackle all the details like health insurance and the who’s who of all the professionals that will support your journey, such as the IVF clinic, reproductive endocrinologist, and more.
    • Your intended parents will have already created one or more embryos by this point, either with or without the support of donor(s), and the IVF transfer process will begin. For the embryo transfer, your body will need to be medically prepared. You will learn more about the medical protocol, restrictions and expectations during this time and begin certain medications.
    • ConceiveAbilities arranges not only a generous pay package for your surrogacy, but one that is well-planned and considers your time and energy. Pre-pregnancy payments start the day after your medical work-up and continue until the embryo is transferred to you.
    • Once you are ready and all the paperwork is in place, the embryo will be transferred to you. And, when your medical team is able to confirm a fetal heartbeat for a second time, we consider the pregnancy “established.”

  • 5. Carry and Deliver a Baby

  • 5. Carry and Deliver a Baby, the Gift of Family

    • As your pregnancy continues, your IVF clinic will determine when is the right time for your obstetrician to take responsibility for your care and you will begin routine appointments with your obstetrician. You will receive support from your match manager and your Surrogate Sisterhood and check-in regularly with your intended parents.
    • During your pregnancy, you will receive monthly pay, starting after the second confirmation of the fetal heartbeat.
    • During the middle of your pregnancy, we will work with you and your intended parents to create a Birth Plan, which is an exciting milestone to ensure everyone is ready with common expectations for the delivery of the baby. The legal work continues to ensure the parents have established court ordered parental rights.
    • The Birth!
    • After the baby’s birth, the baby goes home with its parents.

  • 6. Conclude Your Surrogacy Journey

  • 6. Conclude Your Surrogacy Journey, Your Calling Fulfilled

    • We work to ensure you have the support you need at the end of your journey, physically and emotionally, both with your Surrogate Sisterhood and one-on-one support you may want.
    • At ConceiveAbilities, we help you take the dedicated time you need for recovery with a post birth one-time payment.
    • The surrogacy journey is both demanding and rewarding. 56% of our surrogates are highly interested in a repeat journey and 78% want to refer a friend to be a surrogate. Their personal experience as a surrogate is the top driving factor for this strong interest.

    FAQ: Frequently Asked Questions About The Process of Becoming A Surrogate Mother

    Can I use my own OB/GYN?

    Your initial care will be provided by the intended parent's IVF Clinic and, as needed, a local monitoring facility that we help you arrange. As the pregnancy progresses, the IVF Clinic will release you for care to an OB/GYN and, under most circumstances, your own OB/GYN can then take primary responsibility for your care. If a higher level of care is needed, you will be referred for care from other healthcare providers.

    Will I need to travel long distances?

    Depending on your location, long distance travel with a companion could be required. If you are required to travel, you can expect 2 to 3 trips lasting approximately 1 to 4 days in total. Additionally, it's important to understand local travel to various appointments is a requirement.

    Will the child be created from my egg?

    No. As a compensated gestational carrier working with ConceiveAbilities, you will not be genetically related to the child in any way.

    How many embryos will be transferred?

    While most of the physicians we work with are conservative, this decision is made mutually between you and the intended parents. Usually no more than 1 or 2 embryos are transferred.

    What if I don't become pregnant?

    Typically, intended parents ask for a commitment from you for up to 3 embryo transfers, which allows most surrogates to become pregnant.

    After the baby is born, what am I responsible for?

    You are responsible for taking care of yourself! The intended parents, by law, will have parental rights and responsibility to their child or children.

    How do we connect you with the resources you need to become a surrogate mother?

    When you become a surrogate, you will need a strong support system.

    • We ensure you have personal support, while we also provide and connect you with professional support including legal, financial and psychological experts.
    • Our surrogates tell us that they feel strongest when they are able to connect with other surrogates. We foster surrogate-to-surrogate relationships through in-person meet-ups, surrogate support groups, surrogate family events and social communities. And the surrogate community extends beyond the special women who make this commitment – we also recognize the men behind surrogacy.
    • Surrogacy is not a solo journey and you will want to lean on your partner, family and obstetrician for their input. We provide you the tools you need to have meaningful conversations with the people who matter most in your decision-making process.
    • We provide a dedicated ConceiveAbilities Surrogate Sisterhood group to interact with you during your surrogacy journey and our online community Surrogacy Learning Center to connect with surrogate experts, professionals, and other people who are on or have been on a surrogacy journey.

    What should I expect in my relationship with the intended parents?

    This is where our years of experience and Matching Matters® methodology is most meaningful.

    • We cultivate the right relationship between all parties.
    • We work to establish mutual expectations for the kind of relationship the surrogate and intended parents each envision.
    • We know that expectations will vary from one match to the next. Some relationships can be business-like and other relationships involve frequent communication among the participants.
    • The kind of relationship you are interested in will be explored before and during a potential match with intended parents.

    Why does choosing a national surrogacy agency make sense for you?

    Choosing a national surrogacy agency gives you the benefit of our vast network across the United States, in addition to our long track record of success and much admired reputation for excellence. ConceiveAbilities is a national surrogacy agency that has the special privilege of working with surrogate mothers from a variety of backgrounds and from every corner of the United States. From our locations in Illinois, Colorado, New York, Georgia, and every major city in the United States, along with many rural locales, we are in daily contact with dedicated and dynamic women in Texas, North Carolina, Indiana, Alabama, Pennsylvania, Ohio, Texas, Wisconsin, California, and across all of America.

    Why does 25 years of surrogacy experience matter?

    Our experience as leaders and pioneers in the surrogacy field enables us to earn your trust throughout your journey. We have deep relationships throughout the nation, along with process know-how, making becoming a surrogate a fulfilling and successful experience for you. Because of our years of expertise in the industry, we dramatically shorten the timeline and increase the chances for a great match and sustained relationship for everyone involved in the surrogacy journey. Other agencies, using less sophisticated approaches, can leave surrogates and intended parents in an extended holding pattern while a fertility clinic, for instance, approves, or does not approve, the match.

    Start your surrogacy journey now.

    Surrogate Testimonials

    Thank you to ConceiveAbilities for being such an amazing support for myself and my family, for making a wonderful match and for caring about all of the gestational surrogates as if they were your own family. This experience has been one that has changed me as a person, mother, friend and wife.
    Gestational Surrogate
    ConceiveAbilities was definitely the best choice I could have made.
    Gestational Surrogate
    I cannot reiterate enough how wonderful you all are at ConceiveAbilities. You make theses incredible things come together so beautifully and for that I am so grateful.
    Gestational Surrogate
    I feel so blessed to be a part of the surrogate group and ConceiveAbilities. The support we are able to give and receive is such a beautiful thing.
    Gestational Surrogate
    ConceiveAbilities was incredible. I felt supported and confident through everything and I am happy to have the opportunity to work with them again.
    Gestational Surrogate
    I have been working with ConceiveAbilities for five years as a surrogate. Take it from me that all of the staff are amazing. Everyone from the owner down to the intake coordinators are approachable, respectful and caring. At every step of the process, they are there for you. Not just there, but really connected and involved in every aspect. You can tell everyone loves what they are doing. I am honored and proud to work with this agency.
    Gestational Surrogate

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