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Important Facts To Know About Surrogacy

2018-08-14
ConceiveAbilities - 9 Must-Know Facts About Surrogacy

If you’re considering surrogacy, you’ve likely put in hours of research - and that surrogacy information is incredibly important as you prepare for your experience.

There are, however, several key facts about surrogacy and facts about surrogate mothers themselves that should not be overlooked. In fact, these interesting facts about surrogacy will put you well on your way to being an expert in your own right!

There are two types of surrogacy.

When most people think of surrogacy, they think of traditional surrogacy – the surrogate becomes pregnant in either the traditional way or through artificial insemination, conceiving with her own egg. In a process that dates back many generations, it’s only been in very recent decades that the second type, gestational surrogacy, became an option. Here, the surrogate carries a child that was conceived with the intended mother's or a donor’s egg and the intended father's or donor’s sperm. A gestational surrogate or gestational carrier has no genetic connection to the child.

Surrogacy is not legal in all 50 states.

While the United States is, overall, one of the most surrogacy-friendly countries in the world, there is no federal law to provide uniform regulation. Each state must create their own surrogacy laws, and some are more friendly to the process than others. For example, states like California and Illinois have mandated gestational surrogacy a legal, regulated process, while Michigan specifically outlaws the practice.

States like Michigan, however, are in a growing minority; in 2021, New York took a stand for families and legalized compensated surrogacy. Read more here.

Working with an agency saves time and money.

While it may initially seem more convenient and cost-effective to do an independent journey, it’s important to understand the role an agency plays in navigating potential roadblocks. Many independent journeys linger for years and, due to the challenges of accomplishing a successful surrogacy journey, may simply never happen. With an agency, you benefit from the experience and preparation afforded by an agency; their expertise can help you avoid pitfalls such as failed medical testing, legal problems and compatibility issues that might otherwise derail your surrogacy journey.

Working independently of an agency can cause a myriad of legal problems, both before and after the baby’s birth. Depending on your state and the specificity of your legal agreement, the document may not provide the proper protection for the intended parents or the surrogate and could even result in delayed parentage. An agency can ensure that all i’s are dotted and t’s are crossed so that everyone is on the same page and can focus on a healthy baby.

Surrogacy is not only for the rich and famous.

While we hear more and more about celebrities working with surrogates to grow their families, most intended parents are just the people next door. That said, celebrities help all of us normalize surrogacy and learn that it's a way for every family that is struggling with infertility a way forward. In fact, surrogacy is a growing trend nationally.

Using a surrogate will not prevent bonding with your baby.

Some intended parents find that they have no trouble feeling a bond with the child while in utero. They may attend appointments in person or via live video, send recordings of their voice, and connect deeply with the surrogate too. If some or none of these things happen, that’s okay too. It doesn’t mean you won’t bond thoroughly with your child after birth. Typically, intended parents are right there when their child is born and are a pivotal part of the birth plan. Intended parents hold their baby as soon as possible with skin to skin contact and some intended mothers are able to preparing so that she is able to breastfeed her newborn baby.

She’s not just in it for the money.

Ensuring a surrogate is properly compensated for her time and effort is important. Becoming a surrogate is an arduous process, however, and is driven by her genuine desire to help another family. She must meet a stringent list of qualifications, both medical and emotional. She also faces potential health risks, bodily changes and the lifestyle adjustment required of pregnancy plus the medical and legal process leading up to it. Surrogate mothers are compassionate and courageous women who enjoy being pregnant and want to provide this unique gift to another family.

She doesn’t want to keep your baby.

All surrogates that work with ConceiveAbilities have their own family and want the same thing for you. Most surrogates feel so grateful to have had relatively easy pregnancies and are driven to assist others, who otherwise can't, build their own family. She sees the experience of delivery your baby to you as the dream that she is striving to make reality.

Surrogacy IS the most successful treatment for infertility

Saving the best for last, perhaps the success of surrogates to treat infertility is the most important surrogacy fact of all. Couples and hopeful people may struggle for years with treatments that have a low likelihood of success before discovering that surrogacy is their best path forward - and that path is actually the one with the highest likelihood of success. Read more here.

And, are you a woman who enjoyed a healthy and successful pregnancy? Do you have friends or family who have suffered from infertility or need assistance from someone else to build their family? Have you ever considered the role you could play in helping someone else build their family - as a surrogate? Talk to us to learn more about the surrogacy process to help someone else's dream come true.

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