Surrogate mother FAQ

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Questions? We’re listening. Here are some answers.

Because each surrogacy arrangement is unique, there may be some variances and this will be discussed in much greater detail as the process moves forward. If you have any further questions or would like more information about becoming a surrogate, please contact us.

What if I don't become pregnant?

Typically, intended parents ask for a commitment from you for up to 3 embryo transfers, which allows most surrogates to become pregnant.

How much do surrogate mothers gets paid?

Our starting compensation for surrogates is $37,000 and increases from there based on your specific situation. For more information see the surrogate compensation page.

Who will cover the costs associated with my surrogate pregnancy?

All expenses are paid by insurance or the intended parents. While there may be a few out-of-pocket expenses throughout this process, you will be reimbursed in a timely manner.

Why would I not be accepted into the surrogacy program?

You can see our entire list of surrogate mother requirements here. In short, it’s important that you are in a healthy and stable position, physically, emotionally, and financially, and have the support of your partner and / or family, to undertake a journey that will last 15 to 18 months. You must have had at least one child that you are raising, so that we know you have had an uncomplicated pregnancy and delivery with your own mothering relationship. Finally, because of differences in state laws, we are not able to accept applications from every state.

Why does receiving government assistance disqualify me?

A surrogate must demonstrate financial stability in order to qualify for the surrogacy program. Intended parents look for financial stability as one indication, among others, that an applicant is pursuing surrogacy because of her desire to help others. Of note, the compensation earned by a surrogate could cause her to become ineligible for most government assistance programs.

Can I be a surrogate with your program if I haven't had a child?

We require that a surrogate must have given birth to and be raising at least one child. Part of our screening process involves the review of your prenatal and delivery records to ensure you have a history of healthy, uncomplicated pregnancies and deliveries.

What does "uncomplicated" or "healthy" pregnancy mean?

An uncomplicated or healthy pregnancy is one that results in a full-term birth without complications like preeclampsia, gestational diabetes, bed rest, blood transfusion or other issues that could pose health risks to the surrogate and/or unborn child.

How long does the surrogacy process take?

You can anticipate that the surrogate mother process may take between 15 to 18 months on average, however, any individual situation could take more time, or less time.

Will I need to travel long distances?

Depending on your location, long distance travel with a companion could be required. If you are required to travel, you can expect 2-3 trips lasting approximately 1-4 days in total. Additionally, it's important to understand local travel to various appointments is a requirement.

Will the child be created from my egg?

No. You will not be genetically related to the child in any way.

How many embryos will be transferred?

While most of the physicians we work with are conservative, this decision is made mutually between you and the intended parents. Usually no more than 1 to 2 embryos are transferred.

What should I expect in my relationship with the intended parents?

This is where our years of experience and Matching Matters® methodology is most meaningful in cultivating the right relationship between all parties. We work to establish mutual expectations for the kind of relationship the surrogate and intended parents each envision, since we know that those expectations will vary from one match to the next. Some relationships can be business-like and other relationships involve frequent communication among the participants. The kind of relationship you are interested in will be explored before and during a potential match with intended parents.

After the baby is born, what am I responsible for?

You are responsible for taking care of yourself! The intended parents, by law, will have parental rights and responsibility to their child or children.

If I am currently breastfeeding can I apply to be a surrogate?

Yes, you can apply. If your application is approved, we will begin the screening process. However, we will not be able to match you with a set of intended parents until you have completely weaned and have had at least one menstrual cycle.

Can I use my own OB/GYN?

Under most circumstances, yes. If a higher level of care is needed, you will be referred for care from other healthcare providers.

Can I apply to be a surrogate if I have an IUD in place for my birth control?

Yes, however, you will need to get the IUD removed after your application has been accepted and you have passed our screening process. Please complete an application so we can determine your eligibility. Because your IUD removal and replacement costs are your own financial responsibility, the timing of its removal is important. After the IUD is removed, you will need to have at least one menstrual cycle before we can start looking for a match for you.

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